Seeking balance…

Here, I share my 2020 thoughts around finding the balance I seek.

Love, Actually…

I remember once hearing that it can take huge romantic gestures to fall in love but that to be in love requires sustained little acts of kindness. For me, love is in the very little thoughtful things because I’ve realized those are the things that sustain the bigger acts of love. In between those ‘world… Continue reading Love, Actually…

The familiar enemy

Just like technology sees newer iterations fixing previous faults, life itself offers us new variants to build the old upon. When we get overly familiar with what has always worked, we can stand in the way of ourselves and God because we refuse to move.  The familiar could become the enemy of new and because… Continue reading The familiar enemy

Unfinished Business

Some years ago, I was in such pain and my dentist advised that my bottom left molar had to go. But even then, it didn’t leave without a fight, I had to have my gum cut open to have that molar extracted and I needed to visit the dentist again because there was a small… Continue reading Unfinished Business

Appointing your days

Happy New Year!!! Welcome to 2018. In Psalm 90, Moses wrote a very famous verse, “Teach us to number our days O Lord that we may have a heart of wisdom.” Does it mean that we should realize the limited number of days we have on earth? Yes. But I have come to realize that… Continue reading Appointing your days

A Random Conversation

A few days ago I had a somewhat random conversation that has remained on the periphery of my mind. I was speaking to an expatriate who recently returned to Nigeria on a work assignment for his company. He had worked within the Nigerian business previously and was on what we could refer to as his second… Continue reading A Random Conversation

The Unwanted Guest

It was one of those public holidays and I was sitting with a group of friends fiddling with my mobile phone when a video ad popped up. It had a loud narrative and I was shocked out of my skin because I had never seen it prior to that time. I quickly excused it, and… Continue reading The Unwanted Guest

Shine Your Light

Let’s begin with some introspection. Think very deeply, is there something really fundamental about you that you constantly downplay or excuse to fit in or make others feel comfortable? I’m not talking bad habits here though but I’m sure you get the point. Okay, please hold that thought. A few days ago, I sat on… Continue reading Shine Your Light

The Lilac Slip…

Each time I take my laundry to the dry cleaners, the receiver spends precious time shaking the clothes out to check for any defects. Are there any tough stains that look like they will require special care? Is there any rip or tear in the lining or outfit, is there a button missing or is… Continue reading The Lilac Slip…

My Jollof Tales

When I was much younger, I really did not enjoy white rice and stew very much. But that was a staple Sunday lunch say 2 Sundays a month except for when my mum decided to prepare a nice curry sauce or fried or coconut rice. I actually preferred jollof rice and my mum was well… Continue reading My Jollof Tales

Good Good Father…

I was speaking to a much older family friend some time ago. A few years ago, they sent their two oldest kids off to boarding school. It was really odd because just in their neighbourhood was a really good school and the kids already attended the school. But also because it was so abrupt, after… Continue reading Good Good Father…

Deep Work

A few weeks ago, I received an abstract in my email. You see, one thing I’m grateful for is the way Abba reaches out to me. He knows me in and out and when He converses with me, He does from that ‘knowing’ place. I am quite analytical so when God needs to get me… Continue reading Deep Work

Hearing God…

Yesterday, I got asked this question: “How would you know God doesn’t approve of the person you’re dating? Hi @Eloxie , can you write on this? Would help a lot of people out there.” My response is not really relationship advice in itself. It is a little broader as it regards how to know whether… Continue reading Hearing God…

Make that call!!!

When we were kids, we had a PABX line. This meant that we had access to all our immediate neighbours via the line but we had to call the switchboard to make external calls to NITEL lines and they billed our home monthly. Sometimes, an operator called in sick and just a few were left… Continue reading Make that call!!!

Chuck it out

I used to be a shirt person and for a long time my work wardrobe was majorly shirts and suits. I collected work shirts in different colours and styles until I recently lost interest and gave most of them away. I started feeling more like work dresses and blouses and slowly my work wardrobe changed.… Continue reading Chuck it out

Divergent Outcomes…

I met Valerie towards the close of last year, she was working as a domestic assistant at my aunt’s home. However, I realised she could not really read and write. I found it quite surprising because my interactions revealed that she did not grow up in an educationally less disadvantaged area and she confirmed that… Continue reading Divergent Outcomes…

The Grind Stone

When I was much younger, my family was friends with a family with whom we visited often. They had a daughter who was close in age to my sister and I so we did house chores together very often. Imagine us doing the dishes for instance, whilst singing and harmonizing our favourite songs. However, this… Continue reading The Grind Stone

His mercy endures forever!

I remember how excited I was when National Common Entrance results were published many years ago and I had scored above the cut off mark. It was quite a high threshold so I was really glad the preparations paid off especially because of how invested my parents were in the preparation. That is probably my… Continue reading His mercy endures forever!

When the dust settles…

Ehis doubled his pace and walked briskly from after school lessons towards the barracks where he lived with his parents. He recalled the NTA announcement that the match would be aired at 6pm. That’s all he talked about during the day. It was the U-20 match between Nigeria and Russia at the 1989 World Youth… Continue reading When the dust settles…

Being Witnesses…

The more I think about Abba’s heart for his lost sheep, the more I realize that nothing about that ‘me, myself and I on the way to heaven life’ I once craved is really going to be possible if I let God. What God really wants is for me and you through our lives to… Continue reading Being Witnesses…