Say No to ‘Normal’

“We really don’t know. God is the one that makes things work”

I was chatting with a friend some days ago; we had spoken a little about a relationship of mine that did not work out. I told him how It really felt like he was good for me, yet it still didn’t work out. At some point, I lost my peace and dragged on until I finally let go. I said to my friend, I may have felt that he was good for me but he wasn’t God’s best for me, else the relationship would have worked out.

The friend I was chatting with answered  “We don’t even know, God is the one that makes all things work out. Some things we think are best for us – like Samuel thought about Saul – turn out to be the very worst.”
That got me thinking. God alone does truly know what is best for us and when we let go, we’re simply saying, “God, I rest in your judgment,” and God takes over. So even if it doesn’t work, we trust that God has a better plan for us because He sees the end from the very beginning. 
On the other hand, when we insist on our agenda, we may end up with something that isn’t God’s best for us.
Anyway, thinking a little deeper about the story of Israel and Saul, we see that they really wanted to be normal, to be like other nations. For some time, I have been dealing with the desire for ‘normalcy’. Sometimes, you just want a normal life, successful by your own estimation and in time and in sync with that timetable of yours. Who wants a ‘but’ that sticks out every time people meet you; but she’s single, but she doesn’t have kids yet, but she doesn’t have a job yet, but they haven’t built their home yet…the list is endless; just like Israel wanted normal. All the other nations had kings, whilst they had prophets who heard from God and judges who administered. Was it working? Yes. But it just wasn’t normal. 
‘Normal’ is different for everyone. For some, it could be, finish from school, have a successful career, start a family at a particular time and just walk the normal path. But many times, God births His glory in the abnormal. Think about John the Baptist, what was normal about his birth and death? And Jesus? Solomon? yet Israel desired normalcy so bad that they begged God for it. They wanted a king. Saul fit the bill; he was tall and kingly in stature. 
normal 5
In desiring Saul, however, they indirectly rejected God as king. (1 Samuel 8:7) If only they knew that what they desired was going to destroy them.  He gave them what they desired, like they bought ‘wahala’ with their own hands. And God gave them a king in his anger and took the king in his wrath. (Hosea 13:11). See how the whole kingship walk turned out over the years. They just created another level because the king still needed to operate with the prophetic and hear from God.
Certainly, our ‘normal’ doesn’t hold water with God. It’s time to stop fighting for normal and to accept the path and run your race with joy. There is much we can birth when we own our journeys. Also teaches us that God’s will is always superior. So when we say ‘thy will be done’, God has our permission to override our foolish desires and give us what is good for us. He makes us desire His will as we align with Him. And like Israel, when our desire to be ‘normal’ overrides our grasp of the peculiarity of our journey, we may be making the same mistake Israel made.
Until we stop looking for normal  and comparing our journey with others, we’ll be unable to see the beauty that lies beneath our pain. The thing that made Israel a nation that others dreaded was that God was their king, which was the very thing they wanted to lose in their quest to be normal. Mayhaps, that affliction you think is preventing you from normalcy is the crucible to birth your ministry and instead of accepting it, like me you are busy analysing and seeking to lose it. No, I am not qualified to talk to Mrs. S because I am not married, and God says to you, ‘who qualifies your ministry based on your position or capacity? All I need is your willingness and brokenness’. You feel like you are defined by your journey and God says, “No, you are defined by my calling, you are an earthen vessel.”
If you only look at us, you might well miss the brightness. We carry this precious Message around in the unadorned clay pots of our ordinary lives. That’s to prevent anyone from confusing God’s incomparable power with us…” (2 Cor. 4:7 MSG)
God is the one that knows what’s best for us and in the midst of the abnormality of our journey, and from the brokenness of our vessels, God births a greater purpose.
 Instead of regret, instead of seeking normalcy, we yield to God and walk our paths with joy, for therein lies the glory of God. In fact, with God, there is no normal because there is no comparism with Him.
We really don’t know. God is the one that makes things work”
Image Credits: Google Images


Share on facebook
Share on twitter
Share on whatsapp

Join The Ride

Subscribe to our fortnightly newsletter with stories from our latest adventures and the best travel tips


  1. I underlined Israel wanting to be “normal” in my Bible on sunday when I read the passage in church. I don’t think is a coincedence that I came here to read stuff on it… God will get the message across to us in any way and today it’s through your blog. thank you.

    1. God bless you dear Rukky, glad it spoke to you and confirmed an earlier word. That gives me such joy. God bless you. 🙂

  2. Great post! Truly God’s will is supreme, unyielding and best. We all know in part and we ‘prophesy’ in part. One day we shall know even as we are known.

    Until then, it behooves every believer to carry the Cross and follow on regardless. A disciple once asked the Lord if John the Beloved would live to see His Second Coming. Jesus replied ‘What is that to you? Follow thou Me’.

    In other words, stay on your lane, focus on your race, abide in your calling. Do not be bothered by the circumstances or rewards of others.

    Grace Abides!

    1. Thank you dear MDP, God’s grace surely abides. Key words, “…stay on your lane, focus on your race, abide in your calling. Do not be bothered by the circumstances or rewards of others.”

    1. Thank you so much dear. WE truly truly have to all run our races. God bless you and make us see Him in the midst of what we consider contradictions or abnormalities in our lives. God bless you.

  3. In everything God works together with us for our good.
    The ‘us’ in that passage is our willingness or otherwise to allow God deal with us according to his blueprint for our lives. This blog reaffirms one of the many convictions of this year for me.

    PS: It’s been a while since i came around here, I hope I’d still make the list of top visitors this year? Talking of which, I am still expecting my promised book.

  4. The other day I was buying cds for my brother and I looked around at others ‘happy go lucky’ and just going about everyday life.

    For a brief moment I longed to be like them and not see life through my eyes but through theirs. Just for a brief moment. I looked up and thought to myself, would you give up the relationship you have with God for a life of thinking God is just up there and whatever goes on down here is none of His business.

    I smiled and thought. No. We (God and I) have come too far for me to go back to the way I was when I was ignorant of the existence of God.

    1. Thanks Sis, I truly appreciate your perspective. When we realise God is guiding our daily walk, we are truly unable to see our lives through the lives of others. Our process and individual journeys are exactly as God permits and therein lies our refinement. I wont give that up for anything. God bless you for reminding us of this perspective.

    2. Beautiful comment – I and God have come too far for me to go back to the way I was when I really didnt know Him.

      God’s Word, God’s choice is standard! I say no to normal

    3. Beautiful comment – I and God have come too far for me to go back to the way I was when I really didnt know Him.

      God’s Word, God’s choice is standard! I say no to normal .

Leave a comment

Your email address will not be published.

More Adventures


It’s my birthday month and unusually,  just counting down this year was a little tough, especially because a few times in the very recent past,

What are you grateful for?

Continuing with an attitude of thanksgiving from yesterday,  just thinking back on my life’s journey has overwhelmed me with an immense sense of gratitude. I

Join The Ride

Subscribe to our bi-weekly newsletter with stories from our latest adventures and the travel tips

© Stupendous Grace 2023