A reason, season or a lifetime…

I first read this poem in 1998 and it moved me profoundly, I have had cause to make reference to it several times over the years.  There’s been serious controversy on authorship of the poem so I’ll abscribe it to Mr. Author Unknown. 🙂 I am sure most if not all of us have read it but today, I am glad to make reference to it.

“People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.


When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason, you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.


When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.


LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life…”

I thought to share this poem today.

This poem has spoken to me and encouraged me many times over and often times has given me courage to just love others and not expect that every friendship no matter how beautiful will last forever.  What’s most sobering is that I have had no control over what relationship fell into what category, I have just rested in God’s providence per season.  It provides added courage to smile as seasons change and friends with whom I couldn’t go a day without speaking become memories, and I pour myself into others not having any assurance that the relationship is not just for yet another reason or season.  It leaves me deeply grateful for the amazing people God sends my way per season,  from my most sacrificial friends, many of whom I am most underserving to the ‘annoying’ colleagues that teach me patience, to the job that teaches me resilience and loyalty and my trials that build character to the pastors, singers, bloggers, authors and tweeters who have no idea what their sermons, songs, words, or tweets do for me.

Have a lovely weekend and I am grateful for you, my reader.

Thank you for being here in this season.


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    1. My dear Sarah, i love you more. What a blessing you’ve been. I pray so too, would be an honour. Amen!

  1. Hmmn. Powerful words for proper meditation. If you do not know why a person is in your life at certain time, you would probably walk away when you ought to hold fast or hold fast when you ought to let go. I can’t even begin to explain just how timely and relevant this is. Thank you for being here this time in my life and for endlessly supporting me. Love you mega. *hugs*

    1. Thanks Oge, you definitely got it. I’m glad to have you in my inner corner in this season. You have blessed me in ways you do not even know. God bless you.

  2. Beautiful.

    But it isn’t easy letting go sometimes of ‘seasonal’ people who have impacted our lives so much though. It is easy to tag them as ‘lifetime’ relationships.

    How really does one tell the difference?

    1. Dear Nonso, thanks for your comment. Honestly, I’ve found out that you can only tell when the season is over. There are people who at some time were daily fixtures in my life and were most valuable to me. However as we have grown older and made choices, with no quarrel or issues,requiring them to remain in this season will be taking on liabilities not assets. Their *season* is past and holding on will cause me more pain, and probably hurt them as well. It is trying to force them back into relevance or forcing them into lifetime relationships that causes problems. Think about Abraham and Lot. The season should have ended when God called Abraham but he took Lot along. How did that play out? But this is also not a reason to give up on relationships that should be salvaged, some lifetime relationships could fizzle away or be less than they should be if they are not maintained. I hope this helped, the Holy Spirit is a perfect guide at such cross roads. Wisdom is profitable to direct. I hope this helped.

  3. I remember this poem. You shared it not too long ago.

    For someone like me who consider friends family, it’s difficult to let go. I’ve come to understand that we’re in each other’s lives for a reason. Reminds me of the analogy of a people being like parts of a tree Madea used in a play. Some are like leaves and others branches.

    If there is a parting, it’s always important to be grateful that your lives crossed and for the lessons learnt, whether painful or good.

    This season will only get better.

    1. I really like Madea’s analogy and yes the season will surely get better and we will be wise enough to let go when we should. God bless you!

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