Be an example…

“Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity” 1Timothy 4:12

I have come to the conclusion that being an example radiates from our very being.  It’s who we are, what we believe in, and how we act. There is good in everyone.  Even though our beliefs may differ, we all radiate something. What is it that you radiate?  What conviction shows forth from you that says “I AM AN EXAMPLE”?  Can Christ depend on you to communicate a message? Is your life an epistle to be read of all men? Sometimes, these things sound far fetched, but they actually are not.

Every day, there are things that test our faith, small tests of integrity, sincerity, honesty and faithfulness; there is a cloud of witnesses watching to see if we are indeed believers. There are also many people who are not believers but have a very good understanding of what a believer’s life should be like. We live in a generation where God is calling us to preach with our conduct, before our words (oh, yes we are called to preach the word with our mouths, not only with our conduct). What attracts people to the God in us is what they see in and through us.

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Sometime ago, I had some body work done on my car and after all the inconvenience, the car finally arrived. At close of business on the first day, I was still busy working at my desk when I got a phone call from a colleague to please come downstairs. Upon further enquiry, she said her driver had scratched my car. Now, first thing was that I imagined just how bad it could be and thought to myself ‘Oh no’, but then God gave me so much calm, and as I went downstairs, I decided to forgive whatever it was, no matter how bad the scratch was. It was sealed already…I was going to forgive and that’s just what I did. I just said to myself that could easily have been an overzealous bike rider or motorist scratch me  badly in traffic, it could have been anything, and I let go.
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I know it doesn’t sound like a big deal, but the next day, God told me clearly that often times, He needs our conduct to make a statement and we fail Him when we react out of the flesh. This is why Matt. 5:16 says, ‘let your light so shine before men that they may see your good deeds and praise your father in heaven.’ The good deeds are for them to praise your father in heaven because they acknowledge that only He could have worked in a human to react in such a ‘counter culture’ manner. Think about the times you have flared up and hurled insults at someone that offended you, when you could easily have managed it better if you let God! Think about the times someone else had to remind you that you were a child of God because your conduct said something else. Remember how embarrassed and ashamed that left you, simply because you were just not an example of the believer at that time, in your conversation, in your attitude. Simply because your speech was not seasoned with salt.

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Honestly, I have learnt that if we let God, He does mould us, irrespective of what temperaments we have, He begins to act in us, contrary to our sinful nature, to glorify himself. At those times, you do not even struggle to lead a life of self control, seeing it is a fruit of the spirit which you reflect.  That testimony is what leaves people in awe and draws them to Christ. The little things you do can make or break someone else’s convictions about the kingdom. Imagine hurling insults at someone when you are offended and then putting up a pious attitude the next day. You cannot even offer to share the word with that person if there is an opportunity to, you have failed God’s test and lost an opportunity to win a soul.

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Can God count on your conduct to pass a message? Can He boast of you and have confidence in your reaction like He did Job?  What in your life needs some fine tuning so you can be a better example of the believer? In what way are you giving out fresh and bitter water?

Make a list of those qualities that you love about yourself, and those that need some fine tuning, those that make you less than what you are called to be. Choose one of the qualities you need to work on, and work on it for the week.

And while you’re at it, don’t forget to smile!

God bless you


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  1. This happened to me yesterday. Even though I did not hurl insult at the person, I however was angry. :(, the issue is cleared but looking at it now, I should have let go and let God. Thank you for this post. God bless you!

    1. Glad to hear this Sue. You are so welcome, praying that you find strength daily as you continue to seek God’s face. I’m glad to have been but a small instrument to encourage you along your journey. God bless you.

  2. This happened to me yesterday. Even though I did not hurl insult at the person. I however was angry :(, the issue is cleared but looking at it now I should have let go and let God. Thank you for this post, God bless you!

    1. Awww…I know how you feel. Forgetting what is behind, we all learn everyday not to neglect the leadings of the Spirit. You now know to let go and let God next time. It’s a place of immense peace just seeing God smile at you for ‘repping’ Him. Thanks for reading and commenting.

  3. God bless you too for this..
    there’s a quote that says :preach the gospel at all times and when necessary, use words”..
    at all times with our conduct, speech and words, they speak louder than the evangelism we go out to do. may God help us all, may He finetune our character til we become perfect in Him, amen

    1. Amen!!! thanks for this comment. May God fine tune our character indeed. God bless you for reading.

  4. I can really imagine the dialogue playing in your head when you chose to forgive even without seeing how terrible the damages done to the car.
    if it was in my head, it would have been a fierce battle resulting in sudden jerking movements .lol
    thanks sis for this.

    1. My mind was like ‘Ghen Ghen’ (with the Mission Impossible theme song playing in the background) this is a big test, I imagined every possible scenario, from a small scratch to a bad dent. LOL at your sudden jerking movements. Thank God for grace, subsequent to that, I found it helpful to decide to forgive an offence ahead. God graced me deeply in those moments. You may want to try it out. Thanks for being here.

  5. You know i’ve been thinking about recent events *cough cough* exams and stadiums, and wondering to myself – “What happens when you’re the only one trying to set an example in a crowd of thousands determined to trample you down?”

    1. Dear NW, very good case in point. But you know what that brings to mind? The 3 Hebrew boys…They stood to set an example when the only consequence was death by a fiery furnace. They stood contrary to the culture of an entire nation. So in the case as you mentioned above, because you are standing first for God with others learning from you as a corollary, you will stand anyway. Be an example alone!!!
      Ask students who refuse to participate in organised cheating for external exams in private schools…everyone else is looking to trample them down but someone somewhere would always remember that young man/lady who refused to be trampled under foot. I hope this helped…We live for Christ principally and people being inspired by us is secondary. So for us to live anyway is Christ…so one of thousands, stand anyway. God sees it. God bless you.

  6. Hmmmmmmm.

    I think it is the result of those little everyday tests, that determine who we really are.

    Our temperaments though…If not yielded to Christ can lead one straight to hell. It’s really easy to do something wrong and tell people it’s just your ‘nature’.

    For this week, think I’ m gonna go with patience. It is indeed a virtue.

    *We live for Christ principally, people being inspired by us is secondary*

    This is sooo deep. With this thought, living for Christ is not an option. We can only inspire people through Him in us.

    Thanks for writing this ma’am. Thanks for sharing.

  7. Being an example is not saying, ‘if not for God ehn, I for…’ or ‘na God save you today’ I guess it’s doing the right thing even when there’s a struggle within, actually I believe the bigger the struggle, the harder it is to do right that’s the time God wants us more to give in and allow Him. My prayer everyday is to be like my mentor who without opening his Bible has brought so many to God because of his life is the Bible.

    God bless you for sharing @Eloxie

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