But Naaman went away angry and said. “I thought he would surely come out to me and call on the name of the Lord His God , wave his hand over the spot and heal me of my leprosy…2 Kings 5:11

Many times, we hurt in our relationship with God and people because of unfounded expectations. Many children of God believe in a walk with God devoid of pain and full of joy all the way or that God will do everything and we have no part to play. Same way, many of us go into relationships expecting a bed of roses. What discourages most of us in our lives is not what life brings up, it actually is unmet expectations. It can totally block our sights to even the present joys that God gives. My thought today is that we should watch our expectations, don’t judge a book by the cover, by all means, read the introduction and read through the book. A walk with God means you are a child of heaven, but does the Bible say you will have no travails? The cover says welcome to the kingdom of God but the book itself says that through many tribulations, we shall inherit the kingdom.

Let’s look at Naaman, here was a mighty man of valour with a big minus; highly debilitating leprosy. His servant maid had told him about a mighty man of God in Israel (first surprise. His servant girl? Not one of the big physicians in Syria), but he moved regardless. He left with an expectation that upon presentation of the letter from His king to the king of Israel, as an ‘influential man’, he would be granted instant access to Elisha and that Elisha would just speak the word and heal him. Imagine his disappointment when Elisha didn’t even give him audience, he was not there to welcome him, instead he was met by Elisha’s servant (what utter disregard he must have felt). Okay, he managed that and expected an instant miracle but no, yet another surprise, Elisha’s servant asked him to go dip in the dirty Jordan in the view of all, 7 times. Now, this is too much he must have said, mighty man that he was, had his servants not encouraged him, he surely would have walked away from his life changing miracle because the mode of delivery was way different from His expectation. He would have come this far and turned back at the edge of his turnaround because it didn’t play out according to the script he had written (expectations) in his head. But he humbled himself and let go of his preconceived notions and God came through.

I think that a number of times, I may have missed out on lovely things because they didn’t come packaged in the manner I expected and it is scary to think that God may have packaged an answer to my prayers and I could miss it simply because I didn’t recognize it. Just take a second and think about that pack of cookies that didn’t look so cool so you didn’t bother trying them out only to discover from someone who tried them out that they tasted the best.

Are you like Naaman, expectant and getting depressed because it is not working out in the exact manner you desire? Be encouraged to realign your expectations, first with information, what does the Bible say about your walk of faith? Next if it has to do with issues pertaining to life, what information do you have available to back your expectations? Align your expectations with the reality of your situation and please don’t lose your miracle or make choices based on unrealistic expectations of how the miracle will come, because God is not subject to our unfounded expectations. He will do what He wants to do, however He wants to. So all we need is discernment to see beyond the external packaging and to trust God regardless.

It’s time to check out what’s around you again. What you are looking for in Sokoto may very well be in your ‘Shokoto’. Are you missing out because of your expectations?


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  1. Wow…I believe God has been trying to talk to me about this and I’m finally starting to listen. Thanks for blessing me with this post

  2. I couldn’t agree more to this!
    The scriptures also speak about the expectations of them who are in the fear of the Lord not being cut off. I believe that this is really important, just as you said that our expectations must align with what the scriptures say about our walk of faith.
    I have a question though…you did mention that we ought to also align our expectations with the reality of our situation. I don’t really understand how this works without falling into the trap of ‘unfounded expectations’.

    1. Dear Irene, many thanks for your comment.
      Yes, aligning our expectations with the reality of our situation is being honest in what we expect from God vis a vis where we are in Him. Remember that the subject of the piece wasn’t faith that God will do stuff, it was more like dealing with how we expected Him to do it and ensuring that we didn’t allow our expectations blind us to recognizing God when He does stuff.

      Okay, let’s assume someone is trusting God to speak about whom he or she should be married to and based on all the stories they have heard, they expect a still small voice or a dream even though God has never spoken to them in such a manner previously. They could easily miss out on God’s voice. The reality is that God speaks to us all differently, for some people it is a dream or vision, for some it is just the peace they feel, some others get several confirmations from third parties, and some just know that when it gets physically tough or challenging, God isn’t there. Plus, we train ourselves to hear God’s voice and if we haven’t spent time in His presence to develop that hearing, we would hardly know when God speaks. So, our relationship with God is a reality that we should align our expectation with in this case of seeking to hear from God. How does God speak to me? What am I expecting?

      Sometimes, you may be in a mess and just want God to deal it on the outside and make it all go away. God will deal the underlying issue first, because in reality that is why you made a mess in the first place. You may not realize this and so you may think that God didn’t answer but He did. That is the reality of the situation.
      Don’t expect the Mount Carmel showdown if you haven’t prayed fervently like Elijah did, that’s a reality. When Jesus came out and spoke once to the sick and they were healed, he had been away in the mountains praying. Match your expectation with your reality and if you want more, dig deeper, move higher in God.

      I hope this helped.
      God bless you dear!

  3. I have just been ministered to in an unprecedented manner. Our expectations when not properly aligned can steal our Joy, may God fill you up with deeper wisdom.

  4. Very refreshing piece indeed, sometimes we get so caught up dealing with the not-so-important. Bless u dear.

  5. I typed a long comment but alas!!! It just disappeared . . .Anyway, I believe the Holy spirit also has a place as regards our expectation. “. . He guide us into all truth”. Sometimes our expectations are so unfounded expecting God to fund our excesses, dats where praying amiss comes into play. The Holy spirit is dere to lead and guide us. Many are the desires of man but it’s only the counsel of God that will stand. Nice piece StupendousGrace. Many of us are really like Naaman who feels God owes us that God had to use the seemingly foolish things to bring us to our knees. I pray God opens our mind to understand His ways and trust His word enof believing dat of a truth our genuine expectation will not be cut short not to go ahead of ourself letting pride to take away our testimony.

  6. For a function to define expectation’s reduction, think: disappointment equals the painful substraction, difficult deduction of dreams from sober reality, here on this unpleasant Lea, various lessons are distilled from life’s stormy sea, we realise the predefined summits of time & chance, that though we be dextrous as scissors, cutting paths in any direction of our ambitious will, we remain sheathed and restrained by the immutable bounds of God’s will

  7. Lovely! It is so important that we tarry in the place of prayer. Only then will we be able to get cogent information that will position us as regards our expectations.

  8. Refreshing read! I do agree with you SG that our expectation has to be aligned with our situations! So much truth in d comments I’ve read on this. God bless you sis for sharing His heart with us.

  9. Wow, what can I say? The piece is a blessing, the comments also takes it to a new height! All these IRONS have really sharpened my iron! Thanks a lot stupendous grace and thanks to all who commented, let’s make it go viral! Let’s invite someone else to be blessed as we all are.

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