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Triumph over Adversity I

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Nneka Hephzibah Obiagwu

There are a few women I have been privileged to meet whose lives inspire me especially on my own journey. Today, I want to share a very abridged version of Nneka’s story. She is a fantastic woman, strong from inside out; a very rare reflection of ‘Triumphing over Adversity’. I will be sharing her story in two parts seeing it is quite lengthy.

Nneka was born and bred in the eastern part of Nigeria in the 70’s and all her life, wanted to be a diplomat. In particular, she aspired to be the first African female Secretary – General  of the United nations. Thankfully, she was the daughter of a Political Science academic and plotted her career path to ensure she ended up as an International Relations specialist in Conflict Negotiation...

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My Lessons from Genesis 39-40

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my lessons

Today, @thelafamily read Genesis 39 and 40 on the #LAGenesis program and I’m sharing my thoughts here.

Let us look at the story of Joseph in the light of the promise that God gave. His life was such a yo-yo, up today, down tomorrow. And it is tempting in the face of those yo-yo moments to assume that God has abandoned you. Let’s see Genesis 39:1, the bible says that Potiphar bought him as a slave. And verse 2 says the Lord was with Joseph, and he was a prosperous man; and he was in the house of his master the Egyptian.

  • He was not in the palace yet, he had not fully attained his dream but at the very lowest, from the favoured son to the slave of an Egyptian, the bible records that the lord was with him...
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Phenomenal Woman

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maya

Yesterday the world lost Maya Angelou. For some of us, what comes to mind is Oprah’s ‘mum,’ Tyler Perry’s muse and Whoopi Goldberg’s mentor amongst others. To me, she was a graceful, legendary, PHENOMENAL woman with a beautiful smile. Her life was an inspiration and I am sharing some of my favourite quotes here to honor her.

  1. Try to be a rainbow in somebody’s cloud.
  2. If you don’t like something, change it, if you can’t change it, change your attitude about it.
  3. The love of family, the love of one person can heal. It heals the scars left by a larger society. A massive powerful society.
  4. History despite its wrenching pain cannot be unlived but if faced with courage need not be lived again.
  5. Love recognizes no barrier...
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Mirror, Mirror on the Wall

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Mirror Mirror

My 12 year old cousin wrote this and I thought to share it on my blog. :-)

“A mirror gives you a reflection of yourself in perfect detail. It feeds back exactly what you give it, from the wrinkles on your forehead to the dark circles that make up helps you conceal ever so often to that pimple you just couldn’t get rid of. Feeling ugly? Check yourself out in the mirror. Feeling fly? Feeling slimmer? Check it all out in the mirror. The mirror says it all…well most of it. The real truth is that the mirror only tells half of the story. Not all princesses wear crowns.

But what of the inside? The half the mirror can’t see? What does that look like? That’s where God comes in. Let God be your mirror and let Him show you who you really are on the inside...

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Just Do Different!

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Bring Back Our Girls

Dear Amazing Stupendous Grace Readers,

How are we doing today? I’ve been burdened about on-going events in Nigeria especially the abduction of the Chibok girls and I’m encouraged by all of us who have taken a stand that says #BringBackOurGirls.  We will make our voices heard, we will pray, we will protest, we will strategize for the rehabilitation of the girls; we will show responsibility because Nigeria is our country and that we are here means we have a response- ability. An ability to respond. Looking forward to the hashtag #OurGirlsAreBack  That would just be amazing and we believe by God that it will happen very soon.

Bring Back Our Girls II

In recent times, everywhere I’ve turned, it’s been as though God’s been telling me ‘Just Do Different’. And I mean this in every sense of the word...

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Do You Qualify?

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do you qualify

Hello dear reader, some months ago, my boss at work shared this piece with me.

I thought to share…Enjoy!

DO YOU QUALIFY?

Do you qualify to be the man I need you to be?

Will you be able to recognise the things you need to see?

Will you be able to understand, that I’m a good woman and in my life I need a good man

Do you qualify?

Do you qualify to fertilize my unproduced seeds?

Can you put me in my place if you see I am slipping?

Can you talk to me, wholeheartedly, not constantly tripping?

Do you qualify?

 

Do you qualify to be called all mine?

Can you leave the other women and temptations behind?

Can you come to me with your problems and not wait until it is too late?

Can you stand up and admit if you made a mistake?

Do you qualify?

 

Do you qualify to be the honest ebony man I w...

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My aunt, my blessing…

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My aunt 2

I am the first of two daughters and grew up always wishing I had an older sister. I truly wished I had someone to piggy back on, basically not cos i wanted to raid her wardrobe and do stuff younger sisters specialize in doing (well, partly so), but largely because I missed having someone to just talk girls stuff in an older sister manner to. Guess what, I did get my prayer answered. No, my parents did not produce an older sister in a ‘Blast From The Past’ moment but almost 16 years ago, my uncle got married and his wife has become that older sister I used to wish I had.

my aunt3

It’s her birthday today and I’m taking time out  to thank her for being there for my sister and I in a way that only an older sister could be...

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The Parable of the Jumper Cable

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Jumper cables

A few days ago, after working long and late, I was set to go home. As I got into my car and  made to turn my key in the ignition, it did not respond at all. Not one light on my dashboard came on. Alas, I had a dead battery. What did I know? I had a good friend help me start up the car using a jumper cable. I had not seen those in many years. I however remember that my dad kept a jumper cable in each of the family cars, the only way I got to know how  they worked. It was quite a refreshing reminder how that little cable in one’s trunk could be a life saver on a day the car decided to act up. Not too long after, I had some friends over at mine, and as I saw a few of them off, one of them couldn’t get his car started too...

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Gambo!

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Seize Opportunity

There was once a man, I will call him Gambo. Gambo was a tout at one of the parks in Sokoto. He it was who lifted the toll lever and was in charge of toll revenue collection every day, working from morning up until evening. He had minimal education as he only had a primary school certificate. One very regular day, an expatriate stopped by at the tolling point and requested to be referred to a place where he could buy sand and laterite in truck loads for his construction project. Gambo asked a few questions and realized that the expatriate was a site engineer managing a contract who required daily deliveries. Then he said to him, what is your payment arrangement? And the man said to him that payment would be made daily and on site for as many trucks as were delivered...

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The Cycle of Life

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cycle

I once heard about a survey carried out in a nursing home. The senior citizens, many of whom were close to death were asked if they had any regrets and the results revealed that most of them were unanimous in their regrets, some of which are presented below: 

  1. They regretted not taking enough risks
  2. They regretted not spending time with family.

That was all. Nobody remembered who got married or who had children first, who built the first house or had a fleet of ships and cars. At that age, all of that had no meaning. It was all about having fulfilled purpose and relationships. This has inspired me to some thought of recent, after which I found out that I am at a tensionable position...

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Take the Limits Off

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no limits

Hello everyone, how are we doing?

Today, I will be sharing my thoughts based on a very interesting story I recently heard. Enjoy!

An American business man visited one of the Middle Eastern countries to transact business, and as he made preparations to return he received a visitor. The visitor told him that the princes of the land would like to give him a gift, hence they would like to know what kind of gift he would like. “I have enjoyed my stay here and I am set to return home. What could I possibly request as a gift?” He thought to himself. He wished that the young man would simply convey his gratitude to the princes. It was like he was saying, “thanks, but no thanks.”

 

“They would be sorely displeased by your refusal to accept their offer of a gift sir, please permit the princes to g...

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Thank you!

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thank you

Today’s post is inspired by an old song,  ‘Thank you’ by Ray Boltz.

Take a listen and find below the lyrics.

Today’s post is inspired by an old song, ‘Thank you’ by Ray Boltz.

Take a listen and find below the lyrics.

I dreamed I went to heaven
And you were there with me
We walked upon the streets of gold
Beside the crystal sea

We heard the angels singing
Then someone called your name
You turned and saw this young man
And he was smiling as he came

And he said, “Friend
You may not know me now”
And then he said, “But wait
You used to teach my Sunday School
When I was only eight”

“And every week you would say a prayer
Before the class would start
And one day when you said that prayer
I asked Jesus in my heart”

Thank you for giving to the Lord
I am a l...

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Take your medicine!

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medicine 1

Hello everyone,

This happened yesterday and I thought to share.

Mondays are typically my busiest week day at work. You know the drill, arrive at work, draw up To-Do List, start working through, ticking check check as you go. Yesterday was a desk day, meaning that I had no meetings, just me and my lonely ‘lappie’ and the long to do-list. So i worked meticulously through the list and about mid-day, I realised my laptop was flashing a low battery warning.  Not a big deal, all I needed to do was connect my charger right?  Guess what? I actually ensured that I connected the charger to my power socket and continued working. I felt like I had dealt the distraction and was ready to continue with my work.

medicine 3

Not too long afterwards though, I got another more desperate warning from my laptop...

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Pizza

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PIZZA

I remember reading quite recently off someone’s TL how he went to a pizza place to order pizza, and how the shop girls kept trying to correct him , saying that it was pronounced ‘pizza’ and not ‘pitza’ (‘piːtsə‘), and they were laughing almost condescendingly at him. But guess what? He was right and they were wrong. They were mocking a man they could quietly have learned from. Reminds me of a time I ordered a croissant and had the waiter try to correct my pronunciation because he was lost from the get go. I found out he was new, didn’t bother too hard,  he got my order and I was good to go.

That thought crossed my mind today, the girls did not know better, and wouldn’t it have been such a shame if the man in question started to doubt what he knew and bowed to their mocking ...

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Accents

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Some days ago I stopped at a large neighborhood shop to get some groceries and as I walked along the aisles, I heard a lady speak unmistakable South-South Nigerian pidgin. She spoke it so comfortably and with such finesse that I was enthralled. I made sure I located the lady behind the voice, made small talk with her and I was right; she grew up in Benin, hence her ‘korekt pidgin’ accent. I grew up in the Southern part of Nigeria and pidgin English was not permitted in our home. I tried to learn it when I was much older but I felt that it didn’t really stick, especially because of the way people laughed at my concerted attempts to put it together...

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24 hours ahead…

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Hurry

Last year I travelled to the UK for my ‘brother’s wedding. I call him a brother because he has been my friend for almost 18 years and truly is a brother.  So you can imagine how excited I was as I made plans to attend from Lagos. Infact, I thought the dates had stuck somewhere in my head.  I arrived the UK a few days before and the night before the wedding, I called and spoke to him and his then fiancée, excitedly saying to them that I would see them the next day which to me was their wedding day.

So it was that I got dressed, bid my friend with whom I stayed good bye, carefully checking and noting my bus numbers.  I boarded the bus and then walked a few metres from the bus stop to the church. When I got there, it was quiet and there was no activity...

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My Bed

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my bed

When we were younger, my mum held my siblings and me responsible for keeping the house clean; this was because she stopped hiring house helps when we were all quite young. When she came in from work, she checked her kitchen first and then as she made her way to her room, she checked out our rooms. Trust me; we had learned the power of the focal point. All mum saw was the gas cooker, her sinks and the table top in the kitchen and once these were in order, we were great. It didn’t matter that we had stowed the dishes away, out of sight to be washed when we were done watching Voltron and Super Ted. LOL.  In the rooms, it was the bed. Once the bed was made, the room looked arranged...

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Random Post – ‘My Traffic Light Moment’

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traffic

Two days ago, I was driving home from work, I had worked a little later than usual and the road was slightly deserted at the time. As I approached Ozumba Mbadiwe Road, a car sped past me, it was going so fast, its rear lights were all I saw in a few seconds.  I was so ‘tripped’, it felt like I was watching the scene from a movie.  But then just ahead, there was a traffic light and I couldn’t help laughing when the driver screeched to a halt as the traffic light turned RED. Your humble self drove and slowly brought my car to a halt beside the guy that just sped past me in his Porsche Panamera. Trust me, I flashed him a nice victorious smile and he smiled in return. Ha, yes, as fast and expensive as his car was relative to mine, there was no ‘beef’ but we both had to wait...

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Approvaholics

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APPROVED

Sometime in early 2011, I stumbled on an article by Katie Mc Koy that made me take a pretty deep look at myself and make significant adjustments. Before reading it, I had never spent much time thinking of myself as someone who particularly worried about the approval of others. However, by the time I was done reading, I was convinced that I was a budding ‘approvaholic’ and needed to check into rehab.

“Approvaholic”  is a term that refers to people who have an excessive need for approval and I remember reading an article which pointed out that if you simply must have two or three strong approvals by others to get through a day, you are on your way to becoming an “approvaholic.” At the time, I was slowly and steadily headed there.

Approval isn’t a bad thing, like most things, it ...

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‘In His Time’

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In-His-Time

He has made everything beautiful in its time…Eccl 3:11

 Do we remember the song by the Maranatha singers?

‘In His Time…He makes all things beautiful in His time…

Lord please show me every day as you are teaching me your way

That you do just what you say in your time’

I’m writing this to encourage those of us that think that God is running late and perhaps are tempted to ask ‘God why me’?. Last night, I had a conversation with a friend who seemed to be asking God ‘why me?’ and who sometimes felt standing up for God hadn’t quite paid out. Just reminded me of Elijah, who after standing up to Jezebel felt that he was standing alone. Imagine,  this mighty man of God that had held back the rain by the word of his mouth was terrified by a woman’s threats and ran away...

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