The 6 personality styles: Which are you?

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6 approaches

I have been studying the book of Acts and feeling more inspired than ever to share the gospel of the kingdom everywhere like the early church did. But like many of us, oftentimes I feel constrained because I do not have the ‘depth’ or ‘utterance’ like some people I know so I refrain from sharing altogether.  However, I have recently been reminded that we are all called to minister, even if we are not all called to ministerial offices like pastors and evangelists. By God’s design, we are all different and so my personality determines, or at least impacts, the style of evangelism/ministration  that I could adopt.

In this post, I am going to share very briefly on six effective evangelistic styles inspired by a little exhortation I was recently blessed by. The intent is that as we identify with these character types we will be encouraged to see opportunities to minister to others and realize that God can do more with each of us. I also hope it inspires us to see what style works for us and stops us from wanting to be reflect a particular style before we can share the gospel of the kingdom with others.

Style 1:  Confrontational/ Direct/Assertive (CDA)

Mr. CDA is confident and bold and is not impressed by beating about the bush. He has very strong convictions backed by strong utterances as well. He is well assured of what he knows and is more concerned with getting straight to the point than with wondering how the message is being received.  Often hasty and considered brash, he is driven by an intense passion and love for the kingdom that can only be expressed via his typical confrontational style. A Biblical example of this confrontational approach is Peter in Acts 2 where he addresses the crowd just after the baptism of the Holy Ghost. Honestly, not everyone responds well to this method, as many may find it too aggressive and in your face. However, without a doubt and with the help of the Spirit, the direct method is the most effective way to get to many people. It is often popular with evangelistic people ministering to large numbers.

Style 2:  Intellectual/Analytical

If you enjoy intelligent discussions and debates on difficult issues, can hold your own and tend to gravitate towards logical analysis of problems, this is you.  If asking WHY is a predominant part of your reasoning and you like to get to the deeper reasons for opinions held by others, you might fall into the intellectual category. You are able to put pieces of random information together in your head and string them together flawlessly from first principles to aid your discourse whilst holding the attention of your listeners. Paul is the prime example of this evangelistic style. In Acts 9 and 17 for instance and infact, throughout Paul’s ministry, he debates with Jews and Gentiles alike as he spreads the Gospel.

Style 3:  Testimonial/Storytelling

Are you conversational with good listening skills and strong conviction about God’s power? Are you excited and passionate about your walk with God and always willing to share about your personal experience? You just may be a testimonial witness. You simply minister by showing people what God has done for you and those you know, and when people listen to you, they are encouraged to seek God for themselves in the hope that they too will experience this God. The blind man in John 9 is a perfect example. He said, “I do not know whether he is a sinner or not, but this I know, I was blind but now I see.” You may not have the force of the confrontational or the depth of the intellectual but you have the testimony that people can see and relate with. For some, this is what is needed to bring them into a relationship with Jesus Christ.

Style 4:  Interpersonal/Relational

Are you a ‘friendship’ person? You know those people that everyone is attracted to? Some people have a knack for nurturing and developing deep friendships and then pouring themselves into those inner circle friends. If you prefer to develop a close friendship first before sharing your testimony, this is likely you. You probably have an interpersonal style. Matthew, also known as Levi, in Luke 5:29, is shown to be a good representative of this evangelical style. A former tax collector, Levi hosts a banquet for Jesus and invites all his friends, including other sinners. Think about all the ways you could share with your close friends using this style. A random breakfast after a jog could easily become a worship meeting. You could have people over for drinks, a sleep-over; to watch football or bake cookies which create the atmosphere for you to share your testimony of Jesus.

Style 5:  Invitational

When I think about this style, what comes to mind is the Samaritan woman whom Jesus encountered at Jacob’s well in John 4: 1-32.  Verse 23 says, “Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony…”   Similar to the testimonial style, an invitational witness is people-oriented, except that the object of the invitation is typically an acquaintance rather than a close friend. Are you that person that has no issues engaging others and sharing about your conviction even with those you rarely know? You probably have an invitational style.

Style 6:  Serving

Think about someone who simply lives and funds a Christ based conviction to help others without needing or seeking public commendation. Dorcas in Acts 9:36-42 is a fantastic example. So impactful was her life in her little corner that when she died, the believers mourned so much and Peter raised her up. After her death and revival by Peter, many people came to believe in the Lord. I love this style because it shows that living out the love of Christ is just as powerful as the confrontational style or any other obvious style and that evangelism doesn’t need to be dramatic to bless others or win souls.

In addition though, I would like to say that irrespective of your predominant style,  the Holy Spirit can inspire you to respond in any way to meet a need. So you could be typically interpersonal and in the face of injustice or sin, the Holy Spirit stirs you up to be confrontational.  Or you are typically service oriented and God gives you utterance so you sound intellectual to reach a particular audience. It is always by the help of the Spirit.

Now don’t you just feel encouraged to minister in whatever style suits your personality? What style do you think you dominantly exhibit? Go out there and share…the kingdom is depending on me and you.

I think I am testimonial, although a part of me says I may be a tad intellectual. What do you think?

Okay, in a fun twist, let us try and identify ourselves by one of these styles. Would love to see your responses in the comment box.

@eloxie

26 comments to The 6 personality styles: Which are you?

  • Ejaeta Harry Doghor  says:

    Fantastic! Thanks for sharing. I think I see myself one time or another in just about all these styles but predominantly in testimonial, service and intellectual.

  • Anietie  says:

    I would have said you’re Mrs. CDA.
    I think I’m testimonial but I like service too.

  • Batarhe  says:

    Eloho is a mix of 2,3,4,6

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Dear B, i think you could be intellectual and interpersonal. :)

  • Nnamdi Chukwukelu  says:

    Intellectual/Analytical is definitely me. Problem was that at one time fellow leaders of my fellowship felt that I analyzed too much and they criticized me for it. How do we stop such trend?

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Dear Nnamdi, thank you for your comment. Thanks for your question too. It is one thing to have an intellectual style that enables you deliver the word of God in a logical manner to very intelligent minds but it is another to be so analytical that it blocks you from receiving the things of the Spirit. I would encourage your intellectual prowess if God is glorified at the end. That’s the end result and if that is being discouraged it might just be as a result of a lack of understanding. But on the other hand if your analysis seemed to attempt to rationalise God, then it may be something to check. The foolishness of God is wiser than the wisdom of men and sometimes without realising, we could begin to attempt to logically analyse God and could miss out on His workings. You cannot understand an infinite God with a finite mind. I hope this helped. Do send me an email if you’d like us to talk further about it or if you think I just didn’t get your question. Stupendousgrace1@gmail.com
      God bless you.

  • Nike Kuti  says:

    I’m a cross between inter personal and confrontational! Thanks for this. I will just ahead with my style and not try to share the gospel like anybody else!

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      My dear Nike, I’m so glad for your comment. Thats exactly the point. Run your race. Preach the word in your own unique style as God empowers you, not worrying about any others style. Stay fired up!!!

  • tiana  says:

    Aww, Ike thanks for sharing this piece. @ike I think you fall in style 6.. Hehehe. As for me I’m style 1 n 2

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Thanks Tina. Glad you found it helpful. Be encouraged now to share the word of God and win souls with your style. He that wins souls is wise.

  • Frances Okoro  says:

    For me…

    I used to be very assertive, I still am sometimes. I spill the truth directly but these days, I tend to be more sympathetic when talking with others, trying to identify with their issues and telling them that I understand, especially if i’ve been there before. So I share my experience and how God helped me overcome..
    So story telling/testimonial is more of mine..
    I can also go all out like Peter if need be but that’s when I am pushed to the wall.ordinarily and primarily,private storytelling is mine.

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Hi dear agree with you about testimonial being your style. But like you said, truly God is not limited by our styles. As the need arises His Spirit in us can inspire a response that is probably not our default mode. It’s all about God and what He wants done. Thanks dear, I appreciate you.

  • bolanle  says:

    Fantastic write up. I am like testimonial vs Intellectual. I also have elements of 4 and 6. Well done

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      GOD bless you Bolanle. Thanks for stopping by and making time to drop a comment. Glad you could also see yourself in some of the styles. Now you are encouraged to share the gospel some way. #Nomoreexcuses

  • Peace Itimi  says:

    I’m definitely testimonial…..some times, interpersonal though!.

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Well done dear. Now you know so you know what to do. God bless you!!!

  • David  says:

    I think I’m invitational :)

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Fantastic!!! I think you could also be testimonial. :-)

  • Dikky  says:

    Awesome piece. I really loved this! I guess I’m majorly intellectual and interpersonal, then testimonial and sonetimes serving. But honestly, I prefer the intellectual style cos most of the time I find myself around people who have unanswered questions related to issues on faith & God. At the end, it’s the Holy Spirit that backs up these styles with His convicting power.

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Glad to have you here Dikky. I realise that what God needs most is our willingness to go. If the situations around you require intellectual type evangelism, God can give you utterance. It’s about Him flowing through us by any necessary means to reach others. God bless you.

  • yougeecash  says:

    So, I proudly tie my LASTMA gele and oleku. But better late than never, no?
    Thank you for sharing this Eloho.
    Every conversation I have had with you so far has always left me enriched and more inspired to live and love like Jesus would.
    We discussed this on Sunday and yes, I do believe I am a testimonial. Sharing the gospel of Jesus for me is most practical when I am able to share personal experiences. And that’s something I’m really grateful for.
    I’ll definitely do more of sharing than I have done in ages.
    This was most encouraging.
    Thank you for sharing.
    And I love you! :-)

  • Kings  says:

    Reading through this post reminds me of Saints that have utilized the different forms of evangelism to reach out to the lost .
    Lester Sumrall was pretty confrontational with the message of salvation.When I think of gospel scholars/analyst,I remember Ravi Zachariah following in the footstep of Paul.
    The Master was the pioneer of encapsulating the gospel in parables in the new testament.
    Similarly, Philip in Act 8:26 demonstrated how the gospel can be spread abroad by developing friendship.
    Invitation to the kingdom was and still is Billy Graham’s technique of reaching the lost with the popular hymn”just as I am” in the background.
    Finally when it come to serving,I think of numerous missionary that have gave of themselves to turn others to the kingdom.This is the method I am in tune with except in exceptional circumstances.
    God gave us diverse personality to reach out to the lost and there is a single element of the Spirit that must be associated with whatever form we use which is LOVE.

    Thanks for Sharing and Stay Blessed

  • eka  says:

    I love this write-up and am gonna be sharing cause ever so often people feel like they must minister like someone else and often withdraw when their personal style doesn’t seem to match that of the one they look up to. I remember my roommate in university never said a word in judgement to anyone in my room or wing, she just lived clean and wholesome for Christ and even though she was younger, her personal life was so graceful, inviting and inspirational that everyone generally tended to ‘behave’ when Ada was around and next thing you’d know, you’re engaging with Ada in the Word or was on your way to church with her. Lol. So smooth !!! As you so rightly said – DO YOU!!! I like.

  • Cityonahill  says:

    Testimonial mostly….

  • David Adeleke  says:

    I think I’m a combo of 1, 3 and 6.

  • Joy E  says:

    No matter how many times I read this post, it just keeps blessing me. God bless you, Eloho!

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