“This time next year…”

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this time next year

This is a guest post, I pray it encourages and blesses you as it did me.

I met my Lover sometime in 2003. He told me I was his wife on the 12th of June 2004.  No we did not start dating, neither did I agree to date him for many many years. I decided we were better off as friends. (That my people is another day’s tori.) After all said and done we got married exactly a year ago today. Because of the time I took to weigh my decision to get married, I always said that I married deliberately and consciously with my senses intact so “no shaking”. However, the past year didn’t turn out to be all roses and cream. Mama didn’t raise no fool so I expected some tough times, I just didn’t expect the tough times to appear so soon. There were times I felt that I had made a terrible mistake especially when 3 months into the marriage my Lover was passed over for a promotion that was supposed to change our lives. It was like my world crashed. The bible says “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favour” So na me no fit add favour on top my husband head” was a constant thought and it made me doubt that I made the right choice.

praying couple

After months of being morose, semi depressed and just generally being a nuisance feeling like I was a stationery sedan on the highway of fast moving SUVs, I rose above the disappointment. I just kept telling God – even if you do not do all I ask I will still serve you. I prayed a “this time next year prayer”.  The “this time next year prayer” is a simple prayer where you tell God what you want Him to do within the next year so you can have a testimony on the anniversary of that date. Months passed and It seemed like nothing was happening but my life changed in 3 days. Exactly 3 days. The Lord did much more than My Lover and I asked for.  He fast tracked my matter. You know what the icing on the cake is ?  hehehehehe; it’s not yet the anniversary of my “this time next year” prayer.

My miracle is by no means complete but I could not wait for the anniversary of my “this time next year prayer” or for my miracle to be complete to share my testimony so far. I chose instead to use my first wedding anniversary to share and encourage anyone reading who has a need from the Lord. Believe me, the Lord is cooking something beautiful up for you. Be encouraged.  The Lord that surpassed my expectations is well able to do same and even greater for you. It will surely come to pass.

Because my Lover and I are like Oliver Twist, we have gone ahead today to make another “ this time next year prayer”. Join us and let’s watch the Lord work His wonders. God keeping us alive I“ll be here again in a year to testify and I hope you too will have a testimony if you key in and make your “this time next year” prayer too.

Not because I am a pro at the marriage business, yes O, my lover and I are first class learners, but I would like to share 5 lessons I have learnt in the past 365 days. I hope it helps someone.

1.It’s a walk of faith

Faith

The bible says whatever is done without faith is a sin. You enter marriage with so many hopes and dreams but you’ve gotta have faith that everything will work out fine. No one can tell tomorrow. Ehen “Dem no dey know person finish“. You can never know a human being 100%. I knew my Lover for 9 years as a friend before we got married but even at that I cannot predict his actions accurately all the time. Believe you chose the best and walk the walk with faith trusting that God is involved. I had faith that he would’nt become a monster in the face of a storm, that He wouldn’t go overnight from a man that fears God to one that doesn’t, that God would meet our needs, day by day…it’s a walk of faith all the way.

2. 50-50???

50-50 experience myth

In love or in chores, that 50-5o na joke. Your spouse may just need a good dose of loving during a tough period. You can’t just abandon said spouse with the excuse that you’ve been putting in  80% effort in loving  said spouse up cos trust me a day will come when you will have no power to give and need to receive  a lot. It’s an interdependent relationship, sometimes, your spouse may need to put in all 100% because you can’t and next time, it may be you having to put it all in.

3. One Accord

Two are  better than one

The bible wasn’t joking when it said ‘ Two are better than one’ or One shall put 1,000 to flight and 2 shall put to flight 10, 000”. If a couple can unite together, nothing is impossible. If only you both can unite , you will see great things happen in your life. I found that unity in purpose and prayers is such a powerful tool in any marriage. The power of agreement is not a joke, little wonder the devil wages such a concerted fight against united marriages. See my testimony above. Nuff said.

 

4.Food Network/Telemundo  vs Supersports.

Super SportsPrint

We both watch Food Network/Telemundo and Super Sports together. Not because either of us love those channels equally, but because we both have to show interest in what the other is doing. Football loving wife + Food Channel watching husband = super couple. Why? Those are great bonding times. No joke.

 

5. Gist power.

conversation

A couple cannot be in church together all the time serving God, neither can they be at the office all the time, nor can they always be in the bedroom attending to godly matters. 80% of the time, na gist husband and wife dey gist. Like they say “it’s about the little things”. Soooo if you do not have a few similar interests to gist about be it Tinsel or Arsenal, e get as e go be oh. These common interests give you a chance to form your common vocabulary, your coded language for all the time. Talk, talk Talk.

I pray that

Reading through this gives someone faith to pray a ‘this time next year prayer and trust God to see it come to pass. Trust me, I’ll definitely be back with more. God has been so faithful to us.

That someone out there who is waiting to see all the ducks line up in a row to commit to him/her realizes that marriage is a faith walk and makes that decision by faith. I’ve come to realize that you decide to love the person you are married to as he loves you too. You both love God (please I cannot say enough how beautiful it is to a marry a man who shares your commitment to God and your altar too. No take that matter play), love each other, have things in common, abeg no chop the guy/babe head with all those theory wey you don read from plenty books and on top social media.

I come from a family of very tall people and I didn’t gain in height, even if it was something I really wanted. My lover is not the best of singers, he may even be tone deaf (he he he) and I love music and love to sing. All the perceived inadequacies matter not though; my husband has a gigantic heart with more than enough love for two. He has become my father, my nurse, my cheerleader, cook etc and has loved me past my imaginations. Height couldn’t have made up for that, neither could he having a whole head of hair.

So what if he’s not as tall as you would have liked? Talk true, in the grand scheme of things, some of those things that you hold up are at best ephemeral concerns. Go for the bone…what kind of man/woman is he/she? At the very best, imagine him/her with no money, no nice clothes, no job, would you still be able to joke and be friends? Go for the things money cannot buy. Money comes and goes…

Thanks for sharing this day with me, I trust God to come through for you as you make your “this time next year prayer”.

Happy Wedding Anniversary to My Lover and I.

anniversary

God bless you.

18 comments to “This time next year…”

  • Marquis de Serendip  says:

    Very nice. It is the triumph of faith over facts, of tangibles over fleeting emotions, and of resilience over fickle-mindedness.

    Lol @ waiting for all the ducks to line in a row(as some do).

    Nice one.

  • enajyte  says:

    Happy Anniversary! God bless you both. And yes I will pray a ‘this time next year prayer’ with and expectant heart. Thanks for sharing your experience.

  • Isaacola AA  says:

    God bless you. Good one, the power of agreeing two cannot be overemphasised. When two agree none can break them, I know this from experience of 5plus years of marriage.

  • Charles  says:

    Congratulations on your wedding anniversary. God bless your home.
    Thank you for those encouraging words. I will key into this grace and pray my “this time next year prayer” now.
    I look forward to coming here next year to testify with you and others who will join.

  • Debby  says:

    Yay! At the beginning I thought it was fiction
    Then I became confused at the advice part. Lol
    Thanks for this post, I can’t explain my gratitude but its okkk you don’t know why. Lol
    God bless you

  • sarah  says:

    Nice!

  • Sophie Neeze  says:

    Great stuff; pearls of Truth! Huge congrats to you dearie, and may your joy be endless! xx

  • naijawife  says:

    Aww this was just lovely. I totally agree on that 50/50 part too!

  • BAJ  says:

    Congrats..pray for many more beautiful and victorious years with your lover.

  • otas  says:

    I thank God for your marriage. Happy anniversary!I pray you have more testimonies to share bcos your write up has really encouraged me. And yes o, I don pray my “this time next year” prayer!God bless your home.

  • frances  says:

    Awwww! This absolutely blessed me!
    And I am joining in d dis time next year prayers too,yes,I believe faith can move mountains and dis is indeed perfect for what I want whc has a one year timeline.
    Thank u,thank u for all the tips,indeed marrying a man dat shares ur commitment for the altar isn’t one to be joked with.
    And happy anniversary in arrears! May God continue to fill u guys wt love,love,love,unity and joy,may ur home be a standard for other Christians to follow,IJN amen!
    Thank u,thank u.
    Btw ,I tap into ur annointing for a better,greater home and man sef.hehe.
    Thanks for dis.its blessings in more ways than one

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Dear Frances, AMEN!!!
      That was a guest post and it blessed me just like it did you.
      I share your prayer for a ‘this time next year miracle’ and I trust God that He will bring it to pass.
      So if two of us shall agree…and we have agreed, so let’s see God do what He will.

      God bless you!

      • frances  says:

        Yes,we have agreed and God will do wonders on our behalf,AMEN!

  • CityOnAHill  says:

    Happy Anniversary sweetie! (Again)…An awesome read. A whole lot of lessons packed into just one year! You came quite some distance for one year, stationary sedan indeed! I’m doing the ‘this time next year prayer’ too. May all you dream of AND pray for come to you exactly as God wills. Love you to bits hon.

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Will make sure she reads this. :-) thanks auntie of life.

  • highlandblue  says:

    Your five lessons in marriage are very true in my experience. America’s Next Top Model, Masterchef and Tinsel are now among my fave shows, while the wifey loves action movies at the cinema, doesn’t fall asleep during football and co. LOL

  • This Time Next Year II…  says:

    […] Wow!!! God is always on time. Today, I am so excited to have @2yus back to share the sequel to her ‘This time next year’ post from last year. If you haven’t read it, please check it out here […]

  • Uju  says:

    Beautiful! May God continue to bless you both.
    Amen!

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