Who is in your corner?

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Recently, I have come to appreciate more than ever, the privilege of friendships and relationships. It’s an amazing blessing to just enjoy true friendships and when I even try to establish how some of those friendships were formed, I realize many of them were birthed out of mere providence and today, it is those relationships I am celebrating. Some of them with people I have never even met but just share a palpable bond and  kindred spirit that fills me with so much joy.

As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend. (Proverbs 27:17) He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed. (Proverbs 13:20)

We are admonished to bond with people who will encourage our better behaviors and characteristics. This is important because with or without our conscious consent, we eventually take on the characteristics of the people with whom we bond.  We find numerous biblical cautions on this principle or law of bonding:

Can two walk together, unless they are agreed? (Amos 3:3) Make no friendship with an angry man, and with a furious man do not go, lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul. (Proverbs 22:24-25)

In God’s definition and instruction for relationships, He insists that friends build up instead of tear down. The Scripture gives ample instructions for godly communication between friends: “Open rebuke is better than love carefully concealed. Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful” (Proverbs 27:5-6).

Think about a boxing match, during time outs, the boxers go to their corners to receive strength and encouragement from the team in their corner, their coach and team members most often would nurse their wounds, review the strategy and cheer them on. What strikes me the most is that the support is not premised on the boxer winning or losing the preceding round or even the match, they support because they believe in him/her and  have a common goal.  True friendship is there whether you are at the peak of your life’s success or at the depth of dismay.  Let’s bring the boxing match scenario home and juxtapose with our lives, who do you have in your corner? We cannot be sharpened as iron if we are relating with wood or plastic. Imagine coming up for air from a tough battle and not finding someone that truly understands what you mean or feel. It is important that members of our inner circle are those with whom we share the basic quality of being ‘iron’, these are the people by whom we can be sharpened.

No matter how gifted you are or how great your destiny is, every David needs a Jonathan by his/her side. One that accepts you the way you are because they are confident of God’s purpose in your life, one that will not be silent in your error but able to rebuke you in love, one that is there in the midst of your adversity, one that will not be joined with others to slander you even if they are right and you have done some despicable thing, one that will provoke your purpose to manifestation, one that is loyal to your dream and one that encourages you when you are about to give up. Those sound like lofty expectations to have of any friend, right? I agree, but that’s what it takes to be fulfilled, imagine having a few friends with the aforementioned qualities, surely you will feel safe in their counsel, covered by their intercession, encouraged by their loving rebuke and accountable to them for your actions.  Imagine being that type of friend. I am most grateful for the times my friends called me out on things I had done, or for the times I could sit down in humility and hold myself accountable to some friends amidst my struggle, knowing that I could be vulnerable knowing that they were in my corner and we had the same goal, to make me better and make God proud.

A friend ought to be able both to offer and receive encouragement and loving criticism. We need to come to appreciate both the encouragement and the candid criticism from our friends, as well as their kindness and generosity. A friend should never commiserate with or encourage his friend’s bitter attitude or rebellion against any of God’s laws, statutes, or principles but should encourage him to change course.

Ointment and perfume delight the heart, and the sweetness of a man’s friend does so by hearty counsel. [A true friend both gives and accepts good counsel.] (Proverbs 27:9)

Have I been hurt by friendships gone bad? Yes. But that is not enough reason to shut my heart to the endless spectrum of relationships life opens to me every day. I acknowledge that God is in people all around and I open my heart guided by discernment to like-minded people who can build me up as I build them up too. Now, the previous mistakes I made find meaning in the people I share them with who learn not to walk same paths. The life I live, I live for more than me, because every day, I am inspired by the strength of a friend as another friend is inspired by me. I have been blessed with amazing friends and relationships that have provided colorful fabric to weave the tapestry that my life is.

It is time to do a ‘friend audit’. Who is in your corner?

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13 comments to Who is in your corner?

  • Charles Aborishade  says:

    Your life is really an inspiration to me, thank you for sharing such truths. these works bless me, alot

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Awww! I am humbled and inspired at the same time. Thank you so much Charles. God bless you.

  • Ifueko  says:

    Very nice peice. Made me stop and take a friend audit, first asking myself if anyone considers me in their corner by these standards and if i am in anyone’s corner as well. Thank you for the scriptural references as well, they were all I needed to convince me how important this is. Thank you for writing, I can relate to your posts and they are a blessing.

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Glad it spoke to you dear. I agree with you, whilst we celebrate those in our corner, we also have to ensure that we are that supportive for others as well. He that waters shall also be watered.

  • Yougeecash  says:

    This is deep. Every David needs a Jonathan. No man is an island, we all need friends and the right kind of friends too! There’s nothing as refreshing as having friends who would not judge you, friends who believe in you and encourage you to manifest the greatness within and friends who will rather hurt you with the truth than comfort you with a lie. This is brilliant. Thank you for sharing. I hope I’ll have you in my corner 😉

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Hello ‘Fresh’ Oge! :-). I couldnt have agreed more with your comment than I did with your lovely post. I am so proud of you. You know where I am, right there cheering you on.

  • Tobi O  says:

    I am definitely in your corner. You are an amazing friend.May God continue to bless and keep you.

  • Stupendous Grace  says:

    Hello dearie, I am definitely blessed to have you in my corner. Be sure that you have me in yours. Love you much. Big Hug

  • Hauwa  says:

    A very timely wake up call to everyone striving to grow in every aspect of life. It takes a lot of courage and confidence in your life goals to be able to forge ahead against all odds, to move on from valueless relationships etc. Gods grace is ever sufficient to see us through every step. God bless u dear.

  • @ikeamadi  says:

    “We are admonished to bond with people who will encourage our better behaviors and characteristics.”

    Which is why I am bonding with you : )

    God bless you.

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      ‘Iron sharpens iron…’. That is why I am sticking with you. To be honest, you are so stuck with me! Thank you so much for reading and sharing and for all the encouragement. God bless you.

  • Melodee  says:

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    WIFI, just 3G .. Anyhow, fantastic blog!

    • Stupendous Grace  says:

      Hello Melodee, thanks so much for your lovely comment, glad you enjoyed your visit. :-). We hope you can visit again.

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